I had an epiphany this week, with the help of my co-worker Robin. Here it is: Ancestry binders can be wonderful gifts for those who have the memory loss that old age dementia brings.
It makes sense, really…
It’s common knowledge that, as a person loses his/her memory, it’s the
short-term memory that goes first. I saw
this with my mother—first the 1990s faded out to black, then the 1980s, then
the 1970s, then the 1960s, then the 1950s… and so it goes. But her memories of her childhood remained
much more intact.
I discussed this with Alzheimer’s expert Jo Huey via email
this week. She said this about memory
loss: “It is as if one takes an eraser in 2010 and erases the information
stored in the brain backwards towards 2000, then maybe even as far as 1980 or
1960 [or before]... Because of this process, people often know a great
deal about their past but know little about what happened today. With
that in mind, in order to have more enjoyable visits and to build rapport
one can almost always discuss the past with them.”
My friend Robin said that the ancestry binder I did last
year for her mother-in-law has become one of that lady’s greatest joys. When she looks at the history of her parents
and her grandparents from so long ago, she remembers those people! And when reading the research I did on her
ancestors, she has a framework for that new knowledge! And when her siblings come to visit her, they look
at the binder, and they share those common memories. It gives Robin’s mother-in-law something to
talk about with visitors—particularly older visitors such as her siblings—where
she is on a level playing field with them.
Her memories of those early years, and the things she heard from her
parents and grandparents so long ago, are still there, waiting to be reawakened—even
though current events might confuse and frustrate her.
Wow! What do you buy
your aging parent or grandparent who sometimes doesn’t even remember who you
are? If their vision is good—you can
give them the gift of their ancestry.
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