Most of my father’s life story is lost forever. I always meant to write it down, and he
always said he would do it—but when we finally made time to do it together, he
died not long after we started. I would
give a king’s ransom to know more details about his life before we kids came
along.
I’ve heard lots of reasons for not writing down your life
story…
“I don’t know what to write about.”
A good list of questions solves
that problem. Those kind of lists are
all over the internet and in books at the bookstore. (I have one which I give to clients and
family members.) If a person starts with
a good list, then it’s as simple as this: (a) write down your thoughts about each
question that interests you; (b) skip the ones that don’t; (c) throw in
anything else that you think of along the way; and (d) the job is done!
“I’m not a very good writer/speller.”
That’s like saying, “I’m not
a very good mechanic, so I’m not going to drive a car.” The fact is, we get help with the things
we’re not good at. One of my favorite
things is editing. That means taking
someone else’s rough thoughts and “cleaning them up” and “making them
pretty.” Everyone knows someone (or can
hire someone) who is good at that. But if
you don’t, write down your story anyway!
A rough diamond is much better than no diamond.
“I never did anything interesting, so it would be boring.”
My mother’s life consisted of
growing up on a farm, getting married, and being a housewife for the rest of
her life. My husband’s mother’s life was
the same. But when people who love them
read the life stories that I helped them write, those stories are more precious
than gold. Details that may seem boring
to the writer, are fascinating to us who didn’t live in those times. And so often, the better we understand our parents
and grandparents, the more we love them.
“I’m not a very good typist.”
In the computer era, good typists are a dime a dozen. Every child can type these days. If you can write, someone else can type! So write down your story, or dictate it to someone, or type it if you can—but don’t let it be forever lost.
So please, grandmas and
grandpas, mothers and fathers, write out your memories for us! It doesn’t have to be perfect or professional—just
do the best you can. We want to know
what has made you the person you are. We
want to see the world as you saw it, before we were born. We want to walk a mile in your shoes. We don’t want these stories to die with
you. Share your lives with us! We want you to.
